Parents who aren’t in a romantic relationship anymore will likely have to continue communicating as they raise their children. This isn’t always an easy undertaking, partially because of the hard feelings that might stem from their break-up.
Yet, it is important to find ways to communicate effectively so the children can thrive. These tips may provide a starting point for parents who need to communicate effectively but find doing so to be challenging.
Stay calm and respectful to each other
Emotional triggers are common after a separation or divorce, especially if the split was contentious. You must still approach each interaction with the other parent with a level head and a respectful tone. Prioritize clear, concise language that focuses on your child’s welfare.
Stick to talking about the children, not past disagreements
All conversations must remain focused on the child’s needs. This may include talking about their schedules or aspects of life that affect their well-being. Being able to avoid potentially contentious discussions can greatly improve the chance of avoiding arguments. This approach minimizes the risk of misunderstandings and reinforces the shared goal of both parents: the child’s best interests. Preparing for discussions with notes on specific points you wish to cover can be helpful, thus ensuring that the conversation remains on track.
Take a step back to regroup when necessary
Taking a step back from a heated discussion is often a good idea. This is only possible if the matter at hand isn’t urgent. The break doesn’t have to be long, but it should allow both parents to compose themselves and think about what type of resolution might be best for the matter at hand.
In some cases, parents may need to turn to a legal representative to determine how they may proceed. It’s critical to follow the terms of an established parenting plan, and those who don’t have one yet should work out the terms as quickly as possible. Ultimately, the goal is to do what’s best for the children so they have an environment they can thrive in despite their parents splitting up.
